What Lube Does Matter

Being someone who is into anal a play a bit, or least using my favorite anal plug the zing.  I noticed in of the blogs I followed a post about anal lubes and the transmission of STIs.

Apparently what lube you use can increase the likely hood of a STI being transmitted, but of course this if either of you have a STI to begin with.  Also sometimes wondered how they would test if something helps prevent the transmitting of STIs or STDs without of course having a bunch of people just use them and keeping track of the results.  Always had this horrible image get in my head of them taking a group of people with the disease and a group that didn't and randomly pairing them up and then keeping track of who gets something and who doesn't.  Which would sorta be a horrible way to test something.

"This study was done on cells in a lab. It doesn't prove that the same thing happens in the human body, but it does mean it's possible. Combined with the results of the study that found an increased risk of STIs with lube usage, it starts to appear that what kind of lube you use really matters."


So Anyway what the study found was that certain common kinds of lube, Astroglide ( one of the few that i've tried from work that i like ), KY Jelly, not really sure what versions, but the ones they tested increased the transition, and in the case of KY killed off bacteria some of which are normal and beneficial.


The good ones where PRÉ and Wet Platinum, both of these didn't do anything to the beneficial bacteria or increase the likely hood of STI transmission.  The thing about Wet Platinum to remember though is that it is a silicone based lube which wont' be very good to your silicone toys.


PRÉ apparently is advertised as promoting fertility as well as being a friendly lubricant that doesn't hard the body. How well it effects how likely you are to get pregnant I don't really know, but then I'm talking primarily about it being used for anal play specifically. 


To find out more about this study, please visit Sugar's blog post on it.

Sex Ed

I had the 'pleasure' of observing a scene the other day, between a Domme, a female sub, and a male sub in one of the BDSM chatrooms that I visit. Please note that whenever I refer to anyone online as Dom/me or sub, I use the terms loosely. Sometimes VERY loosely.

The Domme was directing the two subs in their interactions. It wasn't the worst scene I've ever observed, but it wasn't the best either. And then something occurred that made me go WTF?? and start giggling. The Domme directed the female sub to arouse the male sub and make sure he was good and hard...and then to put a cock cage (chastity device) on him. And EVERYONE PROCEEDED AS IF THIS WAS NOT ONLY NORMAL...BUT POSSIBLE!!

I had to bite my tongue not to say anything. I mentioned the incident to my lion, and we had a good giggle over it. Especially considering his own chastity device should be arriving in the mail in the not too distant future. The whole concept of enforced chastity is something we both find interesting and we've been doing a bit of information gathering online. I'll let you know how our own experiments with it go.

But obviously these three individuals had no idea how a chastity device really works, or at least that the general point of a chastity device is to prevent him from being able to achieve full erection. They are generally designed to only go on while he's flacid. And the thought made me pause. Here were three people who had no idea how to really use the 'toys' they're using online; there must obviously be a lot more that I haven't run into personally. And then I cringed, thinking of how many of those people got all excited about something they did online, ran out to the store to buy it to try it at home in person, and were completely disappointed, perhaps to never consider trying again.

Sex education is a vital part of most school programs. We teach our children about the dangers of STDs, about safe sex, about how the body works and how pregnancy works. Maybe we need to start a sex ed class for adults...on how to use the many delightful toys out there, and how to truly enjoy them.

I'm thinking registration for a fall session could begin now. Small class sizes, to reduce the blushing. Weekly classes for 12 weeks perhaps. Anyone interested? LOL