Survey about birth control and parental judgment

I saw a link to this post on friends profile and I was gonna leave a comment but I thought it would just be to much a long wall of text to just leave a comment.  So in order to break it up and write it out more fully, I am going to write a note on it instead.  Address of the post at the end of this note.
The post is titled, Survey says Teens Skip Birth Control Because They Fear Parental Judgement.  In response to the title alone I have to say a great big fucking so what?  For one there are more forms of birth control then the pill which I'm guessing the girls and one of the reasons they aren't taking it.  What about the boys who are apparently are not informed enough to wrap up there dick before they going sticking in some girls vagina.  But the survey says "68% of teens said they agreed with this statement: The primary reason why they don't use birth control or protection is because they're afraid their parents will find out".  Just to be clear I suspect this survey has more to do with girls then boys since girls generally need parental permission in order to get the pill, IUD or other form of contraceptive.
'The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, said teens consistently say, in the organization's surveys year after year, that their parents, not peers, partners or popular culture, most influence their decisions about sex, but birth control seems to be a "profound exception" to this rule'.

Where the fuck is this data? I you follow the link from the post on CNN, you get shown a image that breaks down the ethic background along with the answer to just if you agree with "The primary reason why they don't use birth control or protection is because they're afraid their parents will find out".  I could say in addition to the blatant assertion that its your parents and not what you learn at school or from piers that matter, I have read things about comprehensive sex education at schools drastically reducing the number of unplanned pregnancy, and contraction of STIs or STDs.
"Evaluations of comprehensive sex education programs show that these programs can help youth delay onset of sexual activity, reduce the frequency of sexual activity, reduce number of sexual partners, and increase condom and contraceptive use. Importantly, the evidence shows youth who receive comprehensive sex education are NOT more likely to become sexually active, increase sexual activity, or experience negative sexual health outcomes. Effective programs exist for youth from a variety of racial, cultural, and socioeconomic backgrounds"
Now while I do not think I can argue that having parents that are sex positive and able to openly communicate with their children about the importance of sex safety amount any other topic about sex.  Honestly this is not just something that happens between a parent and their child.  Grown adults have trouble talking to other adults about sex without it being something weird cause for some reason it just is not something you talk openly about. It is not just the parents responsibility but every ones responsibility to promote a more sex positive society where this would be less of a issue going forward.  As a result unplanned pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases and abortions will all decrease as well.  In this day and age I personally feel like maybe even as soon as ten years old kids should start receiving sex education, as there has been some data asserting that kids are having their first sexual experience at a younger and younger age. http://www.cnn.com/2015/05/07/living/feat-teens-birth-control-fears-parents/index.html?sr=tw051915birthcontrol1030aStoryGalPhoto


Started Learning Japanese あまなのにはんご

Recently I started to try and find out ways to learn Japanese online for free.  Something that has not been a easy task but it has been something I have been wanting to do for awhile now.  I suppose it is not to surprising that is difficult to find much in the way of learning another langue for free.  My main goal is try and be able to read Japanese, partly cause I found I wanted to start playing eroge visual novels, but there are not many that have been translated into English.

I would also like to learn how to speak it as; assuming I find a full time job again and have the money.  I would very much like to be able to travel to Japan.  Possibly even move to Japan.

Right now I'm mostly trying to study two of the three character sets that is needed in order to read Japanese. hiragana and katakana.  One site I am trying to learn Japanese through is Lentil: Learn Japanese.  It uses a flash card style to teach the characters in hiragana and katakana, and so far I've completed the katakana characters.

I completed the katakana characters but I am still working on the hiragana ones.  Main problem if have with this site is the characters it shows you don't always exactly look like the character they first taught you.

Hiragana and katakana are the two easiest character sets to learn though.  Katakana is exclusivly used for writing foreign words in Japanese while hiragana is only used in combination with the last and hardest to learn kanji.


1. Lentil: Learn Japanese:  http://japanese.lentil.com/


I am antisocial

Seems like more and more I just want to avoid dealing with people.  I feel like I've always had a problem getting close to anyone.

Not that I do not want to be close to someone, I would like to find a girlfriend / Mistress.  But when it comes down to it I rather spend most my time alone in my room playing with my computer.  If it wasn't for needing money to pay rent, I wouldn't even want to go to work.

My roommate asked me recently if I was angry with him, I just wanted to be left alone.  I had the day off and by the time him and his wife had got home I was tired and was about to go lay down when he had informed me that there was some food if I wanted but just went to my room and went to bed.

I feel conflicted at times between wanting an human connection and wanting to shy away from it.  I can interact with people at work or if someone wants to talk to me on subjects I don't mind talking about, but when it comes to me being the one to start the conversation, specially with someone I don't know I usually rather avoid it.

My Days off I always spend alone despite not necessarily wanting to be alone.  I often wonder what it would be like if I actually had friends that wanted to hang out with me at my home or invite me over.  I haven't been over to a "friends" house since High School, and even then outside of a few common interest where we ever friends?  I haven't heard from any of them since I left high school.  Aside from one that is but then that is cause he works where I do now.

Maybe it is just the people I'm around here now.  I haven't really met anyone I had much interest in.  Well there is a woman at work that I wouldn't mind getting to know better, but she's in a relationship and my interest in her is not of friendship.

I sometimes think I should just be fine on my own but at the same time I'm 33 years old.  I would like to have a relationship.  To feel at least once one it's like to be with someone for years and not just wish to spend once more the few times I had sexual contact with a woman.

How does someone going about finding a partner in the real world when it's far easier for them to talk to people online and not face to face, and even then its not that easy.


Quitting Smoking is Difficult

I keep saying to myself now and then, "I'm going to quit smoking,"  I got two days off, I'm just not going to smoke and I can't use the excuse that work stressed me out.  Well I get to those two days off and what do I do..I go to the store and buy more smokes....I'm so damn weak!


Been Awhile

Been meaning to write something to this blog for awhile now but just haven't really felt as compelled to do so. Cridhe released me sometime ago and since I haven't really been a submissive to anyone, I just sorta let the blog go for awhile. I mean what interest could anyone take in someone who feels so incomplete without their Mistress?

I'm sure me and Cridhe would at least still be on friendly talking terms if I had made more effort into keeping the lines of communication between her and me open, but I kept to myself for some time now since I knew about the only thing I really wanted to say to her was take me back, and make me yours again, I need you.


Haven't Posted in awhile

I haven't really posted here in awhile, and not sure when I will get around to posting something more lengthy then this.  I haven't really felt like posting much, as I'm no longer Cridhe's.  I do want to continue to work on posting things here, and at some point I will actually make myself take time to do so.


Prop 8 Ruled Unconstitutional

LOS ANGELES, CA - MAY 26:  Robin Tyler (L) and...Image by Getty Images via @daylife
It is with great pleasure, that in recent news I heard in the previous days, that I can say that the idiocy of Prop 8 has been overturned, well at least for now, until it reaches the US Supreme court, we have yet to see how it will ultimately hold out, but at the very least it is a step in the right direction.   Was wondering if this really horrible decision that was passed a ways back was going to stand.  While I have no personal reason to be opposed to the idiocy that allows the ban on gay marriage to happen in California, I'm neither gay, or a resident of California I am very much against ignorance.

Feel obligated since I watched it again to share, one mans words about the ban, that I just could not have said better myself if I had tried.

We have now come from this moment, some time back to a point where, while it may not have an immediate effect on gays and lesbians can marry in California again.  Perhaps the decision will at least help move us forward towards a world where people are treated as truly equals.

In a landmark decision today, a federal judge ruled that Proposition 8, the California ballot initiative that excluded same-sex couples from marriage in the state, violates the United States Constitution. The American Civil Liberties Union, the National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR) and Lambda Legal filed two friend-of-the-court briefs in the case supporting the argument that Proposition 8 is unconstitutional. -ACLU page on Perry v. Schwartzenegger

I always found it strange how some people react to gay marriage, as if two guys being married has any impact on them.  I never hear anyone going to their strait friends, Oh how could you do that, why would you two get married? do you have any idea how your marriage is going to impact my life?  Two strait people being married next to me isn't going to have any impact on me, so why would two men, two women, etc going to effect me? Other then maybe feel a little more bad if I'm having fantasies about a woman in a marriage.

And just to toss in another related video, cause I love the daily show.

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